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My mother died on Tuesday, October 30 from complications of a brain tumor.  I managed to get there for her final two breaths (I was at work at the time).  The funeral was today, and as bad and crushed as I'm feeling right now, I can't imagine what my father is going through.  The love of his life, whom he was married to for 42 years is gone.  I'm trying to be there for him as much as I can, but to say we've had our differences in the past is a massive understatement.

It's hard to imagine that just four months ago I was still joking and laughing with my mom, not thinking much of her memory loss or weakness (again, we thought it was her medication, and we simply needed to change the meds, but when you don't have insurance, it's not that easy).

This is just an update for everyone that left such kind words on the first journal entry I wrote on the situation.  My original intention in writing the previous journal was in case I decided to stop drawing, but I've since noticed (as you probably have) that I need to draw.  It's my little escape from how shit my life has become. This time I felt I owed it to you guys to let you know how things turned out.  I have no regrets.  I was there for my mother nearly every day for the last three months, talking and joking with her (and holding her hand and letting her know I loved her when she got unresponsive at the end).

Thanks for your kind words and for supporting my art.  You guys rock.
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artin2007 Featured By Owner Oct 23, 2014  Professional General Artist
Many condolences for your loss.

It takes some time to recover from the
loss of a parent.

I envy you that your Dad
is still around.
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buffethunter Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2014
Really sorry to hear of your loss. 
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shareefmuwwakkil Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2013
i am just finding your page man and i know this may sound very thin to you right now but thank you for your art and courage. bright blessing for you and your family. hetep
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Novaprime12 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
This brought a few tears to my eyes... Something very hard to do. But this reminds me about the loss of my grandfather, and that was the most heartbreaking moment of my life. Remember, a person only dies when you forget about them.
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Phantom--X Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2013
My condolences. I know what it's like to lose a loved one. I'm sure she's in a better place.
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ArtbroJohn Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Very sorry to hear about your loss.

Our prayers go out to you and your loved ones.
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Peter-Pine Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013
I'm so sorry for your loss

I lost my Dad in 2007, He had a massive stroke on the monday after Father's Day and died 4 days later on Thursday. . .
The last words we said to each other was "I love you, Dad" "I love you, Son"
and for that I am eternally Thankful
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Randimaxis Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I feel your pain, sir; my own mother passed about seven years ago.

My Mother & I had been arguing a lot, so we weren't talking to each other much. When she told me she was headed for the Hospital for some tests, I swallowed back my "pride" & hugged her, telling her I loved her.

I had no idea it would be the last time I'd ever hug her.

She called while she was there, at one point. We talked for a while, then she had to go. Again, leaving my irritation at her behind, I said, "I love you, Mom." She said, "I love you, too."

Those were the last words she ever said to me.

When I got the call that she'd had a stroke & was in a coma, I was in Florida, visiting my wife's relatives. I just woke up; couldn't get back to sleep. I heard someone on the phone, talking about how they should "let me sleep until the morning". Something tugged at me - I asked & was told what had happened. I made the trip from mid-Florida to south Atlanta in five hours - a trip usually taking eight or nine hours, one way.

I got to see her. She was unresponsive. I talked to her. I kissed her cheek. I sang a quick verse from a song she'd sung to me almost every morning when I was a kid. Then, exhausted, I went home to sleep. Being a Southern Baptist myself, I wanted to pray for her recovery. But I knew, from what the doctors had said, she wouldn't be anywhere near the same. Knowing a life of inactivity would be the worst possible thing for her (she was a classic busybody), I did the HARDEST thing I've ever had to do.

I prayed, "Lord... thy will be done. If she's suffering, please do what you think is best for HER. If she's meant to come back to us, you'll do that. If not, then you must need her elsewhere."

She passed away while I was sleeping that night. She'd hung on long enough for me, her youngest son, to see her.

The day of her funeral, I was an emotional mess. My Dad was no better. We'd been slogging along, trying not to cry at the sight of ANYTHING she'd done in our house... and, as she'd been a housewife, her work was EVERYWHERE. I thought my heart would explode out of my chest; I had no idea how I'd handle a funeral that day.

It didn't happen. That specific day, for the first time ALL YEAR, it snowed. It snowed HARD. The funeral home had to call it off for that day; the ground was too frozen to dig.

Personally, though it may be foolish, I felt that my Mom was responsible. When I was young, my Mom liked to white-wash EVERY wall in our house. I guess it was because she loved the sunshine, because white walls shine like ALL Hell when they're lit up. She white-washed every wall in our whole house; even the bathrooms.

Which was why, when I saw everything covered in a layer of white, I knew Mom wasn't going to stand for us having her funeral THAT day.

I'm not sure if you're the religious type, but I DO know you're in pain. Little miracles make all the difference. Remember the good times. Remember the quiet moments. Remember the love. The pain will lessen & become bearable, in time. The memories should last you until you see her again, in whatever capacity you put faith in, good sir.

Take it from someone who's been there: The people we love are never REALLY gone, as long as we take a piece of their soul with us into our futures.

To this day, I'll still occasionally look up to the heavens & say, "Love you, Mom... miss you."

And that's okay.

My heart goes out to you, good sir. Deepest sympathies. I hope my own lil' stories will help you through your own story.

One love.
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Peter-Pine Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013
second
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bobhhh Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I tell you what I always tell people. My dad passed away 14 years ago and I don't miss him at all. Consider yourself lucky to have had a special relationship.
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swordsmankai Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012
I am so, so sorry for your loss.
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Mamahub Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
I am so very sorry for your loss and am sending many prayers and good thoughts to you and your family, especially to your father. As a Mom myself, I am certain that your Mom treasured every moment that you were able to be with her, even when she couldn't tell you that at the end. You were there for her, the best gift and comfort. Hugs.
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EvilIsReborn Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2012
it makes me sad to hear about this i and clearly many others feel the same way, know that those of us hear on DA support you and if ever you need a shoulder to cry on we are here for you.
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gulldench Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2012
sorry for your loss good thoughts for you
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vinhluanluu Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2012  Professional General Artist
Hugs, man.
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arania Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2012  Professional General Artist
I am SO sorry to hear about your loss. I know you've been going through hell recently with the sudden onset of her illness, and to lose must be devastating. If you need anyone to talk to, don't hesitate to get in touch with me. Best of luck to you and your family in getting through this <3
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PedroPortela Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2012
My utmost condolences. In these instances words cannot express enought.
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bloodfoxtrue Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2012
sorry friend

I hope that you find the strength or w/e that is necessary to carry on in this tough time
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ChibiKenzie Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I am so sorry for your loss, I too know how it feels to lose a loved one, but nothing can come close to losing your mother. I am also very glad that you have release and calm in this storm in the form of your art, which never ceases to amaze me.
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mattwilson83 Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
My deepest sympathies. I honestly don't know how I would feel if my mother died, so I can only imagine.
I'm glad you can find some peace in drawing though, thats where I i tend to go for my own stress relief, and such.
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RedDemon5419 Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
i'm sorry to hear that hombre. truely am. best of luck to you and your father
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alastor-teryn Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
the first time i lost someone, i talked to my friend tom, he said something that has helped me throught every other death i had experiances. he said "when i came into this world i was crying and everyone around me was laughing and smileing, when i left this world, everyone around me was crying but i was laughing and smileing" it helped me realize that the persone i loved was happy and at peace. i am sorry for your loss and you have my condolences
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Custommer Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2012
I am very sorry for your loss. My warmest condolences to you and
your family. Few months ago I lost someone close to and I know how you feel.
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blacktwisted Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
oh my, I'm sorry about the loss. My thoughts are with you.
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KidoKoala Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I'm sorry to her about your family's loss and I hope things will get better for you guys.
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J-W-White Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
My condolences.
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Rokku-D Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Student Digital Artist
I'm Sorry that happen... :(
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Smashbro619 Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
sorry for your loss. i hope you'll be ok. :hug:
at least she'll always be in your heart. never forget that.
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Darknessisnothere Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
:pray: :hug:
I'm sorry, I know how it is to lose a loved one.
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kasurahikari Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
All my love goes out to you and your family hombre, and best wishes for you and I hope we'll still see you around for a little while longer
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Maloknazh Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Im so sorry. My thoughts go out to you and your father. I hope your okay.
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kni9t121 Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
As long as you have memories of her she is with you.
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fightking Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
look on the bright side, you could meat her reincarnation at some point.
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GhostSword22 Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
Sorry to hear that man. Thoughts and prayers to your family.
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DinoDude75 Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
Sorry to hear about that.
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KaijuDuke Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
Its never easy losing a loved one, I'm so sorry for your loss Hombre, best of luck to you and your family.
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halfdragondemon Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
noo! that poor thing that your mom died! I'm very sorry to hear that. would you hear this piano music, Sadness & Sorrow v.2? [link] this is a sad song!
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kingofroar Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
Man...I can't say I know what it feels like to lose someone close, but you have my condolences.

Stay safe, Hombre.
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DiabloStrawhat Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
I'm very sorry to hear that. my thoughts are with you
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JakeEkiss Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012
Condolences, my friend. Had some similar stuff in my family recently. It's a terrible thing.
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JamieFayX Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Professional General Artist
i'm so sorry to hear about your loss, clint! my thoughts are with you and your family right now
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PandaSennin Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Student Filmographer
I'm very sorry to hear that.
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Colour-of-Dreams Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Student Digital Artist
Wow..... :( I am so so sorry for your loss, love.
I lost my dad a few years back. Its one of the worst feelings in the world to realize someone you loved so much is gone from this life. But as time marches on, u can always find solace in the fact that she's no longer hurting or suffering and in a better place. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. :'(
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AriestheShadowLurker Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I am so, so very sorry for your loss. I can imagine what you're going through is some of what I did when my grandfather passed. I know its not my mother, but he was the only person I truly had. I hope everything goes well and that you can remember everything good about her.
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